INTERFAITH MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPY

Interfaith Marriage

Three factor that leads to inter marriage

1. 
   The percentage of religious group in total population:
2. The important of barriers to interact within the local community:
3. The intensity of group identity and group life combined with the amount of emphasis put on the important of in group marriage:

What is the effect of interfaith marriage of the couple?

1. Once spouse can convert to another faith or religion
2. Both can convert to the neutral religion
3. Both can contain maintain separate religion
4. Both can drop out of any
   religious involvement

Based on four effects three Issues of Interfaith marriage

1.Lack of family support

2.The issue of parenting

3. The lack of frame work to understand life

Two key responses of Pastor: Interfaith Marriage

1.            We need to start educating young people before they reach the age of marriage

2.            Once the couple is married be supported

Family structure Therapy

Family: A set of people living together

System: A family is a complex of whole

Therapy: Treatment of mental of psychological

Family as a system with interlocking relationship:

1. Differentiation of self: it is about personality. What is differentiation of the self?

1.1. Cognition

1.2. Emotions

1.3. Behaviors

REBT- Rational Emotions Behavior Therapy. According to Bowen we have to go more Cognition rather than the Emotions, than we will become less problematic, less stress and less emotions.

2.            Undifferentiated person and differentiate person:

Undifferentiated person	Differentiate person
If the person is the Undifferentiated, then he is incapable of object thinking.	If the person is the differentiated, then he is capable of object thinking.
Fusion	Less fusion
Intellectual is feeling and emotion (sad, happy, etc.)
What feels right	What things right
Live in a feeling controlled world	Rather than the thinking

3. Low level of differentiation and high level of differentiation

3.1.They less flexible- and easily stress into dis-function

3.2. Every family have own value in a society

3.3. Able to balance between thinking and feeling

3.4. The capable of strong emotion. We objective rather than subjectivity.

4.Triangulation

5. Nuclear family emotions process- Father, mother and children. It is a single generation.

6. The family projection process

6.1.Parent’s immaturity towards the third persons.

Nicholas Schwatz:

Definition: the animating idea of family therapy is that because human behavior is interactive problems can often best we address by helping people change the way they interact.

Four key aspect of family therapy:

1.The focus is an interaction and patterns

2. It is influenced by immediate and wider context.

3. That interaction result in good and bad behavior

4.  Family either suffers or grow as a result of a behavior.

Family Life Cycles:

Eric Erikson life stages give more insight to family life cycles.

Family Life Cycles	Key Focus	Emotional Process of Transition
1.Single Young Adult	Leaving Home	Accepting emotional & financial responsibilities
Explanation: 1.Differentiation of self in relation to family of origin 2.Development of intimate peer relationship 3.Establishment of self through work & financial interdependence.
2.New Couple	Joining of families through marriage	Commitment to a new system
Explanation: 1.Formation of marital system 2.Re-alignment of relationship with extended families & friends to include the spouse.
3.Parents with Young	Children	Accepting new members into the system
Explanation: 1.Adjustment of marital system to make space for children. 2.Joining in child rearing financial and household task. 3.Re-alignment of relationship with extended families to include parenting and great parenting roles.
4.Parenting with Adolescent	Adolescent Children	Accepting children independent
Explanation: 3.Adjustment of marital system to make space for children. 4.Joining in child rearing financial and household task. 4.Re-alignment of relationship with extended families to include parenting and great parenting roles.
5. Emptiness	Launching Children & Moving On		Accepting New role & new entries into the system
Explanation: 1. Rework husband & wife relationship. 2. Developed an adult relationship with grown children. 3. Re-alignment of relationship with extended families to include in-laws and grandchildren. 4. Dealing with disabilities at the death of parents.
6. Families in Later Life	Retirement		Accepting of the shifting generation roles
Explanation: 1.Maintaining own & couple functioning & interest in the face of declining health. 2.Being supportive to family system 3.Provide wisdom 4.Dealing with & preparing for death.