STAY CLEAR OF GOSSIP AND DRAMA

Drama is for TV, not for real life.

Don’t play a part in someone else’s episode

in which they are the only star.

At some point, everyone will find themselves taking part in gossip. Sometimes, they won’t even realize that they’re doing it. The worst part is that most people actually enjoy it; they don’t think they’re being judgmental and see gossiping as harmless.

They just love the excitement of hearing juicy rumours about those around them and passing them on then getting a reaction. And this makes gossiping a great way to lower your vibration!

Regardless, spreading gossip preys on our ego: we do it to try to feel good about ourselves; to feel superior to others. It’s very often judgmental, and most judgements stem from hatred, which is a low vibrational state that will only lead to you inviting unpleasant experiences into your life.

As we’ve already established, every thought and word holds a powerful vibration. When we discuss others in a negative way, we’re sending negative energy out into the Universe. As a result, this lowers our own vibration, resulting in toxic events in our lives that will reproduce ill feelings. Ayurveda, the ancient Indian medical system, says gossiping affects some of our energy centres, known as chakras. This actively restricts us from ascending to higher vibrational states.

News outlets profit from gossip by publicizing other people’s misfortune. Luckily for them, some people buy into it. As a result, it’s become socially acceptable to discuss other people. Yet everyone knows they wouldn’t like it if they were the subject of gossip.

So, distance yourself from conversations about others, or try to direct the discussion to something more positive. You’ll notice that, more often or not, people who spend their time gossiping are the ones who seem to complain or find comfort in misery. If you join them in their habits, you’ll gradually become disillusioned with life, too.

Similarly, getting swept up in unnecessary drama can heighten both stress and anxiety. This puts you in a lower emotional state and, as you already know by now, this reflects undesirably on your life. Why give up your joy?

I’ve learned to avoid drama at all costs because it does nothing good for me. I once came across a high-drama person who attempted to argue with me about a point I’d made. Ironically, my point had been that we should walk away from fights because they can destruct our peace, but he didn’t believe that we should. When I kindly told him that I respected our differences and we should move on, he got angry. If I’d felt he was actually interested in my perspective, I’d have been happy to share it and listen to his. However, he only wanted to argue, to prove me wrong and drag me down.

His ears were shut and his mouth was open: he wasn’t ready to learn, only to dictate. Our beliefs were different and he got really worked up by it. To him, I was spreading false information and creating further suffering in the world with my viewpoint. This anger was followed by personal abuse directed towards me, particularly since I wouldn’t take part in his battle. I simply stayed silent and observed, until I could distance myself.

It didn’t seem like this person cared deeply for other people’s wellbeing, or that he wanted to prevent suffering in the world. His aggressive behaviour contradicted his points. He simply needed to justify why he was right and that his way was the only way. My beliefs shattered his truth that we should always fight back, and without that truth, his identity became threatened.

This is the work of the ego. Your ego is your self-image created by thought. It’s your social mask, one that constantly requires validation because it lives in fear of losing its sense of identity. When you’re upset because someone doesn’t like you, it’s your ego operating: you validate your existence based on their approval. When they disapprove of you, you no longer feel good about who you are.

Our ego always wants to feel

significant and adored. It seeks

instant gratification. It wants to feel

more powerful than other people.

It’s the reason people buy things they don’t need – to impress people they don’t even care about. It’s the reason we become bitter about other people’s successes. It’s the reason greed exists and why we’re constantly striving to outdo others. It prevents us from acting with love and understanding.

Unfortunately, many of us identify ourselves with a certain image throughout our lives that’s created by our ego, and we have to keep on maintaining and protecting it. If others don’t approve of the image of ourselves that we’ve created, our identity becomes threatened and the ego will fear for its protection, just as in the case here. My beliefs forced that person to question his own beliefs and therefore question his identity, which imposed a threat. This is why he was so quick to get defensive and to attack.

This happens a lot in life because of ego. People don’t say or ask things out of curiosity; they simply want to prove others wrong. They want people to follow their truth, not because they necessarily care about others, but because they fear being wrong and not knowing who they are. There are a lot of high-drama people in the world who seem to thrive in these toxic conditions.

I try to keep an open mind and to listen to other people’s perspectives. However, I’ve also learned not to waste time on people who have no interest in what I have to say, or why I say it. You must make sure that you don’t involuntarily take part in the internal battles of others.

Discussing problems and sharing information is fine when the intention doesn’t stem from the desire to make yourself feel superior through the belittlement of others. This provides a false sense of self and consequently lowers your vibe. There are better ways to spend your time than gossiping or involving yourself in dramas. Instead, try to focus on your own life and on trying to improve it. Time is precious and you should be investing it wisely by doing something constructive that will make your life greater.