TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYONE

If you keep trying to satisfy others, you

will never keep up. In the end, you will

satisfy neither them nor yourself.

Hopefully, it’s clear to you that we do a lot of things in order to be accepted, but if we want to do well in life and maintain our peace, we have to be a little selfish. We’ll never be able to satisfy absolutely everyone, and that’s exactly why we shouldn’t even try. Give up the habit of being a people-pleaser and start pleasing you!

As someone who likes helping others with their personal problems, I’ve found it difficult to stop trying to make everyone happy. People around you will tell you their problems and asking for help. Naturally, we want to assist them.

Responding positively to everyone was virtually impossible and some people became irritate because they felt we ignored them. It made us feel terrible and we began to punish ourself for it. Although we had other more pressing tasks to complete, we devoted an unreasonable amount of time to others lives.

We must realized that we couldn’t please everyone, so we shouldn’t attempt to, nor should we be too hard on ourself. It was important to prioritize our needs and this is exactly what we must did first.

I’m sure you can relate in some way to my experience of being raised in a very judgmental community. As a child, certain career choices were sold to us as reflecting well within the community. If I became a doctor, I’d be considered intelligent, rich and philanthropic. So forth and so on…

Yet our community would still judge me if we became a doctor. For example, if I remained single until I was 30 years old because I was working all the time, then it would indicate something was wrong with me. If I didn’t have my own house, I’d be deemed to be experiencing financial hardship. If I became a doctor and had everything apart from a child, they’d assume I was having fertility problems. That’s how these communities work. Someone will always see a flaw in you.

Sometimes, I’m accused of being arrogant or stubborn for not giving much thought to the opinions of others. It’s an extension of a judgmental ethos that leads people to this conclusion.

Constructive opinions can be very beneficial to our growth, but destructive ones that demoralize us don’t have a positive purpose. Abuse and criticism disguised as ‘feedback’ doesn’t deserve your attention.